Tuesday, March 19, 2013

No one can prepare you

The biggest lesson I learned in my ONE year of mommyhood is being flexible, and no not yoga type of flexible.

Because motherhood sometimes is a cold hearted, well you know
and she will throw you a curve ball after a curve ball.
And just when you feel like breaking she will throw you another.

If you're not flexible you're screwed
I say screwed, but I really mean something else
It starts with an "F"

Before Sienna was born, I had these grand plans of making baby food...breastfeeding like its a piece of cake...co sleeping? yeah right NEVER in my house. Eating everything organic...blah blah blah

I think back at these "fantasies" I had and laugh

Truth is no one can ever prepare you for motherhood. It's not possible
Because every ones experience is different
Every child is different
There are books, and mom friends,
but in the end, it's just you and your child

My mother in law gave us such a hard time about co-sleeping and not letting her cry it out "you just gotta do it even if she cries for 5 hours" she would say. Bless your heart woman, but mine isn't strong enough to handle my baby scream for more than 10 minutes.  Do I want to co-sleep? no way, I much rather her sleep in her crib but if its the only way anyone in our house gets any sleep then that's how its gonna be.

Little miss S sure gives us a run for our money that's for sure. When I look back at my early days as a mom, I'm surprised I'm even standing here today. Those early days were dark. Finding your groove in mothering isnt always easy. But little by little....poop-slosion by poop-splosion...laundry pile by laundry pile I found my way. Even with the daily disasters that come and go, you have to learn to roll with the punches and even if you swore you'd never  do something...co-sleep, give formula or whatever else vision you had....be prepared to take things as they come and accept them, even if they dont turn out as you orignally planned.


  1. I've had more than my share of 'humble pie' moments when it comes to motherhood! Great post Joanna:)

  2. This is so true! Thanks for sharing.

  3. Couldn't agree more!! Thanks for posting this!

  4. lol chewing the food, I feel you on that one, & defiantely the high heels one. I feel crazy just putting on a bunch of a makeup and dress these days. I always have to take a picture when I'm super dressed up so I don't look like a slob when I look back on all the pictures!! haha, I need a babysitter when I get ready!!

  5. I couldn’t agree with this more. Breastfeeding was way harder than I thought it would be and I hated how many people made me feel bad when it wasn’t working for us. We also currently co-sleep with our 14 month old daughter. It isn’t ideal but this way we are all happy and well rested so we make it work. I also try and look at the positive side and love the extra snuggles times with her because I know it won’t be long before she doesn’t want to sleep with us anymore. you’re doing great!

  6. I couldn't agree more! I guess that's why they say "never say never" you just have to find what works for you and your baby!

  7. Wow I lie this! The list can go on and on...my worst lately is actually getting a potty break for Godssake! I feel ha everyone in my family would always tell me to let my baby cry it out, even if we have to re think in having a second child soon, I'd rather co-sleep than letting my child cry for so long!

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